Lonely and desperate for partner? Here's how to find partner in India.

 I am an Indian boy and I feel lonely and want to be in relationship just like everyone. What should I do?

If you are having constant low mood for more than a week and feel like you lost interests in things you always loved to do, then I have bad news for you. You are not just craving relationship but you are depressed. Perhaps you are thinking that by meeting the person who is 'ready' to enter form romantic relationship with you is gonna solve your problem. But this is far from truth. The clinical depression makes finding partner task a little harder. And even if you somehow begged someone to be in your romantic relation, your relationship will have very hard time not because the person you begged is wrong, but because you are emotionally not ready. 

When you are depressed and desperate, you become so much self-centric you don't have place for the partner. They feel left out. You either focus on receiving things you always dreamed or end up providing things so much so that just lead your relation to the end. 

In an ideal relationship, partners are inter-dependent. When you just want to receive all love, care, need and attention you always craved makes your partner uninterested in you. you come across as a parasite. In some cases, people in fear of losing this 'precious' relationship end up constantly trying to prove their worth end up forgetting the actual needs of their partner. 

What should you do when you desperate are for romantic relationship and lonely?

• Be self-aware of any physical and mental symptoms accompanying your desperation. If you feel you have constant low mood, aggression and hatred against opposite gender then seek mental health. Consult a qualified psychologist. If you constantly have low energy, avoid moving out of the bed and or suicidal thoughts then immediately consult psychiatry. If you are under prescribed drug regimen then follow those regimen thoroughly. 

• Focus on your pleasure. I know that sometimes pleasurable things don't seem to be pleasurable at all. But you need to do something to kill your time, so why not choose the least boring thing to do. A person who loves paintings will not enjoy doing the activity when they are feeling down but they will not hate it either. 

• Give more attention to self-care : Make a routine to take care of  yourself. You think you are skinny or fat, buy yourself a gym membership. Your future self will thank you for that. Have a extensive skin routine before bed. May be have a head massage after a warm shower. Start doing something to show yourself that you care about you. The brain is very intelligent organ. Actions do change our thinking pattern. Take care for yourself will induce an optimistic self image. 

• Make your friend circle bigger. I know some people call themselves 'introvert'. But they are not actually introvert. Introvert is the one who enjoys his own company. So throw that bullshit out of window. You need to improve your communication skills. You need to learn to tolerate that awkward silence during conversation with old friend. You need to overcome the fear of rejection. 

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